Do you ever feel like your life isn’t what you thought it would be like? You have the “why is this happening to me?” mindset and, for whatever reason, you are fully convinced the universe is out to get you. Every area in your world comes crashing down and your life begins to spiral out of control as you suffocate to the point of no return.Read More
“In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth.” (Genesis 1:1 ASV). Recently, I was out for an afternoon walk with my wife; we do our best dreaming, planning and problem-solving during our walks! On this one particular day, as we were talking, I felt God turn my attention toward my environment. I suddenly noticed the gentle breeze brushing over my skin, the brightness and warmth of the sun, and the thin, wispy white clouds that laced the beautiful, blue sky, and I thought, “Wow, God, you are so creative!” In fact, the scriptures confirm this in John 1:3, “Everything was created through Him.” (John 1:3 MSG). God is the ultimate "creative!”
As I marveled at His handiwork, I thought about the rhythms and patterns of creation; how we can rely on the sun to rise and set each day, and yet somehow within that cadence there is such variety. Each day is an original. Since the beginning of time, there has never been a day exactly like another. That is incredible! God expresses His creativity within the bounds of order and structure.
You can see this principle all around. Each human being is unique (creativity), yet recognizable as a human (structure). Since God created man and woman in his image, we also exemplify this principle in the work of our hands. For instance, we recognize a house as a house, even though there are endless varieties of houses on the planet. Artistic expression through art and music is another great example. A football game is a football game and not a baseball game because of the rules or boundaries that define it, and yet again, every football game is different.
My conclusion from this revelation, is that there is freedom in structure. It may seem counterintuitive, and at times we may feel confined by our daily routine of seemingly monotonous activities. But I have found that my routine provides a structure of freedom for me to operate in. For example, I set aside a quiet time each morning, and a time for physical activity in the evening. This is my structure. Yet, I am able to create variety within these boundaries. Sometimes I sing a new song to God, or read scripture and pray. Other times I just sit in His presence or go for a morning walk. So, I am able to be intentional with my life, yet operate with a certain degree of spontaneity and creativity. Freedom does not mean randomness and aimless wandering. True freedom comes from knowing where your boundaries are and then exploring the creative aspects within every inch of them.
What are some ways that you create freedom in structure in your life?
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
A father, a husband, a regular guy trying to live this natural life supernaturally.
Person Type #1 | There are people in this world who have one main portion of their life which is dedicated to a certain skillset they posses. They put all their eggs in one basket and specialize in one thing. They know exactly who they are and what they were designed to do.
Their biggest fear? “What if I lose the one thing that defines who I am, and I become nothing?”
Person Type #2 | Then there are people who are multitalented who succeed in multiple areas. The “jack of all trades,” if you will. These people don’t have one main skill, they have multiple interests and are incredibly versatile in their workplace and hobbies.
Their biggest fear? “What if I never settle down? What if I never specialize in one area and I can’t achieve in life because of it?”
Often times, these two completely different design of people compare themselves to one another, when they should be embracing each other.
Allow me to further explain.
Person type 2 knows a little about a lot of things, but they don’t specialize. Instead, they usually stick with a broad area field in which they feel is their niche and they run with it. They work extra hard to learn what excellence looks like and bounce around from job to job under the same field trying to figure out a sweet spot to land. In the process of switching from job to job, they are acquiring experience and new skills they will be able to use in the future. These people often carry an entrepreneurial mindset due to the thought that constantly passes their mind “there is NO job out there that allows me to succeed in every area I love, so I’m going to MAKE a job that does.” And thus, new businesses are born.
Person type 1 knows what they want and will do anything to get the job they desire. These people work incredibly hard to be the master of their field. They have a clear picture of what they want their life to look like and they know exactly who they are. They are highly skilled in their area, but are often intimidated by and replaced with person type 2 due to their lack of possessing multiple skills. Companies hire people who can handle multiple jobs with excellence, which causes person type 1 to be either…
A) Shoved into a person type 2 job where they don’t belong.
B) Replaced with a person type 2, who will be hired to do more for the same price.
I know what all you person type 1 people are thinking. “If person type 2 is so great why don’t you just marry them, GOSH.” Well, instead of being intimidated by them, you should be embracing them. Here’s why:
Person type 2 knows excellence when they see it because they’ve been there. These people know how hard it is to do what you do and be as good as you are when you specialize. Person type 1 is the excellence person type 2 needs to succeed.
When you know what’s good, when you have multiple skills but no specialty - you have the capacity to be a leader. A business owner. The delegator. Person type 1 sees the value in person type 2 more than anyone could ever understand.
Person Type #1 | The Leader
Person Type #2 | The Succeeder
Don’t get discouraged if you are not in a place that sees your worth. We live in a world of entrepreneurship! Find your people. Find people you work well with. Find the opposing person-type. You NEED each other. There’s no room for comparison when there’s nothing to compare! You are unique.
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Which type of person resonates with you? Comment below!
Happy New Year! I hope you all had a wonderful holiday season, and I pray you feel as refreshed and ready to head back into real life as I do. I don’t know about you, but my 2018 was one for the books. It was one of the best years I have ever had in my life and I touched on it a little bit in my New Years Tag post.
My “focus word of the year” last year was “more.” This word allowed me the freedom to say “yes” to things I would never have said yes to before. New opportunities, new challenges, new EVERYTHING opened up when I declared “More” over my life in 2018. I lived my life chasing after myself and who I wanted to be. I found myself as a result. 2018 has been a year for growth and facing myself. I decided I’m not hiding who I am anymore, and that I was going to live confidently and see where it takes me. I like to think that 2018 ultimately prepared me for my “word(s) of the year” for 2019 without my knowledge of it. God’s cool like that.
Last year I decided to run toward more, this year I’m deciding to soar. My phrase for this year is “Fly, Girl, FLY” and this phrase does not stop at my life. I’m extending this phrase to YOU, and speaking it into YOUR life as we walk through this transitional season toward living your life confidently and unapologetically together.
In light of the catchy “New Year, New Me” bandwagon that’s slowly dying off, I would like to change it up a little bit. A new year does not necessarily mean that everything in your life resets. It simply restarts the calendar. The new year tends to be an obvious mental restart for everyone, but that doesn’t mean the “you” you were before has to change completely. Don’t take your baggage, burdens, shame, or anything causing you to feel “less than” into this new year. It’s time to EMBRACE “YOU.” Which is why “Fly, Girl, FLY” fits so perfectly with the tagline “New Year, Embrace YOU.”
If we head into 2019 with this mentality, nothing can stop you. It’s just as important as eating a healthy breakfast everyday, if you start your DAY out right, it sets your habits for the entire day. If you start you YEAR out right, it sets your habits for the entire year.
Do you have a “word of the year?” Comment below! Don’t have one? Feel free to tag alongside me and we can fly together! I believe this is going to be an incredible year. Happy New Year🎉 Remember to give this post a “like” by pressing the “♥️” button below, and subscribe to the Infinite Brevity newsletter!
Today is my birthday (also Thanksgiving, yes) and I don’t wanna make a big deal about it, but this is a cute annual post that I do each year on my birthday to remind myself how far I’ve come, how much I’ve grown over the years, and to pass it onto you, my friend.Read More
I want to be able to come back to this moment, this post, and re-read this the next time I’m at a low point in life and be able to declare aspects of my life for which I am extremely grateful.Read More
I rest in knowing that I don't need the constant approval of those around me. I already have the encouragement and approval from my good Heavenly Father who is always with me, and who will never let me down.Read More
God certainly never latches on to the plans you’ve set for yourself, He may know the desires of your heart, but He also knows what’s best for you.Read More
I used to have this wall art in my childhood bedroom that said “change your thoughts and you change your world.” Seeing this every morning when I wake up and every night before I go to bed, combined with my family’s “MAKE it a great day” (emphasis on “make”) saying has truly changed my perception on life and the power of speaking life into the days ahead.
I’m currently walking through a season of uncertainty, which makes my days spiral out of control due to my lack of acceptance with change. I have fallen completely out of routine and feel as though everything I do in my day-to-day is being negatively impacted by this uncertainty. I have realized that the one aspect I have been focusing on lately is the one negative piece of my life in which overcomes me with anxiety and fear, affecting all other areas of my day.
My epiphany: "How could I let something control me so much as to ruin everything for me?” I have been blaming my lack in life on a situation I cannot change, on a season of uncertainty and stress, when I could be changing my mental process of it all. I’ve been hit with the realization that I could have been claiming victory, financial blessing, peace, and positive outcomes over my life through this entire season, but instead I have been paralyzed by worry and defeat.
You have the power to change your life by simply changing the words you speak into it. Words create worlds, they are powerful. Take advantage of the opportunity to live your life victoriously and don’t let your circumstances defeat you. MAKE today, tomorrow, this week, this month, this year great by changing your perspective and shifting your mindset. You can DO THIS. I can DO THIS. We can DO THIS! ✨
Monday Motivation: Change your thoughts and you change your world.
What an incredible experience we had in Chicago. I'm already prepared to hop in the car with my girls again and explore more places. This vlog is a long one, but it covers this entire weekend (Thursday-Monday), so I figured it was worth it. Thank you for coming along this journey with me! Watch the vlog here:
I think everyone goes through phases of really great-looking skin to “why does my face look like it’s the only part of my body that caught the chicken pox?” almost immediately, and usually at the most inconvenient times. The reasoning for such breakouts is broad because everyone’s skin reacts differently to different circumstances. I am not a dermatologist, nor do I have any other medical knowledge that is not solely based off of personal experience alone. That being said, I am going to share with you my personal tips and tricks on how to react in the midst of your breakout seasons.
Diet | We all do this. Sometimes we dig ourselves a hole when it comes to food. We get off track and start eating what’s convenient instead of what’s healthy. The easiest way to get back on track? Substitute your cravings with healthier options. Drink a glass of water before you eat a meal, just to make sure you’re actually hungry. Lastly, get rid of the convenience altogether by cutting off your "fast food” section in your budget and the junk food in your household. Eliminate the temptation by filling your refrigerator with fresh foods. This will improve your skin immensely. Your skin is a reflection of what’s going on inside your body, if you’re not taking care of yourself from the inside out, your outer-shell will tell you all about it.
Water | True story - one time I had the worst breakout of my life on my forehead. I had absolutely no idea what was going on. I was also feeling terrible altogether with dizziness/ lightheadedness, and my stomach wasn’t feeling great either. After much “self-medication” with oils, creams, cleansers, and masks I eventually came to the conclusion that this was not an external issue. I wasn’t drinking enough water and that REALLY messed me up. What I didn’t realize was that I should be drinking half my body weight in ounces. WHAT?! Honestly had no idea that was a thing. But sure enough, once I got into this habit, my skin cleared right up. Sometimes the answer is right under your nose.
Essential Oil | I have talked about this magical oil so much on my blog already, but it’s such an important one that I can’t stop recommending it until everyone knows about it. I realize that face oils can be a potentially scary new thing to try out, especially if you have oily, acne-prone skin. Never fret, this oil is literally the best thing that has ever happened to my skin, and I use it everywhere all the time. After discovering it, I could no longer go back to my childish ways. Copaiba Essential Oil. My trick? Add a few drops to everything you put on your skin (minus deodorant, of course). Add a few drops to your cleanser, moisturizer, face masks and body wash and stand back to watch the magic happen.
Take a Break from the Makeup | I know this might be hard if you use a full makeup routine every day, but this could potentially be clogging your pores and spreading germs. So make sure you clean your brushes and sponges first and foremost. My advice to those of you who can’t let your skin breathe for a day or two, would be to invest in a high-quality primer that’s good for acne-prone skin with no harmful chemicals in it (search for vegan brands).
Please take a moment to vote on your favorite elements of fall! I would love to incorporate your input in a future blog post. Please and thank you!⬇️
School has begun, but my next adventure awaits in Chicago, Illinois. In just a few short weeks, Brittany, Lorna, and I will be packing up our gear and heading to Riot Music Festival for a weekend trip as well as the Dodie concert taking place that weekend as well. I’m so excited to be going on this trip with such amazing people. It’s going to be so fun and I will try my best to vlog and blog my experience as we go along!
August had kind of a concert lull for me. If you’ve been keeping up with me on social media and following the blog for a while, you would know that I am a huge advocate for concert-going. I love the whole atmosphere of live music, crowds, and discovering new venues and new artists locally. So in the month of September, I will be picking up the slack from August by searching for artists who will be in town and at least getting my tickets for future shows. Riot Fest and Dodie will be in Chicago, the band CAMINO is coming in town so I will for sure be there to see that show, and there are many I would love to see in October. Stay tuned!
Pale Waves' first official album is coming out THIS MONTH and I don't think it's possible to be more proud of them. I have had the privilege of seeing them live twice here in Ohio and I've been following them since the beginning of their career (back before they were under the beautiful influence of the 1975). I am incredibly excited and you better believe their new music is going to be in my September Music Monthly, I can FEEL it in my bones.
This month I have dedicated to taking back my health. Recently I have lost about 20 pounds, and over a few months of “loosely” (to say the least) being “on plan” I have quickly gained some back. This month I am dedicating to strict, healthy living in hopes that I will jump back into a healthy lifestyle as a result. I’d like to try new recipes and start cooking and testing the limits of “healthy baked goods” as well. I can’t wait to explore this world and share my treasure findings with you. I want to get my 21 Day Fix videos started back up again as well as some yoga in between to make sure I’m not pushing myself too hard. I’m excited to get myself back on track after a period of no routine and going where the wind takes me.
I’m so excited for this month because I’m finally getting to a place of structure and routine. I feel like the one good part about being back in school is that I feel like I’m not completely wasting my time. I have a routine; classes every day, work to get done, job searching to do, a business to grow, and much more. School has helped me balance my time in a way that nothing else could help me accomplish, due to my lack of self-discipline when it comes to tasks for my personal life. Give me a job to do and I will do it with excellence and discipline, I’ll finish it if it takes me all night. Give me a job to do for MYSELF and I’ll never get it done. School has really allowed me the structural freedom I needed to be able to balance out the other areas of my life.
I’d like to take this opportunity to share with you some new features on my blog that might be of interest to you.
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August was such an amazing month filled with so many beautiful things and adventures…check out my August Monthly Favorites post for more insight!
The book I will be reading (rather, listening to) in September is called “Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine” by Gail Honeyman. 7 chapters in and I’m already hooked and ready to finish up this baby. Stay tuned for my September Favorites (it might be featured in that post depending on how the book goes…)
What are you most excited for in September? Out of everything I have listed above, I think I’m MOST excited for the first day of autumn (September 22nd). After all, fall is my favorite season.
Please take a moment to vote on your favorite elements of fall! I would love to incorporate your input in a future blog post. Please and thank you!⬇️
My blog journey has been going on for years now, and I've tried so many different platforms and styles it's a little insane. The only thing that has stayed consistent through the years is my actual desire to blog. Now that I am finally in a place where I feel more stable in my journey, here are some things I wish I kept in mind when I was initially starting my blog.
1) Don’t buy everything at the beginning, start simple and build as you go along
Having a “.wordpress.com” url is totally fine when you first start out. I have this thing that when I start something new, I go all in. I waste time and money on something I could have easily started for free. I don’t make money from blogging, as of right now It’s just a hobby that truly gives me joy and an outlet for all the things I love in life. So when those annual payments hit, they hit me hard for a student with a part time job. Not my wisest decision.
My advice? Wait until you have a good following and have established your brand before making any life changing decisions or get tied into purchases. By then, you will have started to catch the eyes of companies who want to sponsor your posts and that’s when you start building your career around your blog.
2) Don’t fly solo
Yes blogging is a personal experience and the content comes directly from you, but it’s not fair to yourself if you’re spending so much time on design and resources by flying solo (unless you love to do that, in which case kudos to you thats wonderful). Doing everything yourself will make the whole blogging process more stressful than it needs to be, and will take literally all the fun out of it and eventually blogging will feel like more of a chore than an enjoyable hobby or career.
Here’s how to fix this: Get yourself a mentor. Find someone who can coach you to blog. Someone who you can go to with seemingly silly questions you have, and for encouragement during burnout seasons, and just someone who gets it. Another helpful resource is staying active on social media. Stay up to date on the latest trends and use your resources that are right in front of you. Grab yourself a graphic design artist to team up with, and a photographer while you’re at it. The better quality content, the more people are going to want to visit your blog. If you do everything yourself, you’ll feel the weight and chaos, and so will your viewers (or lack-there-of).
3) Know Your Audience
My mind goes everywhere, and I’m always coming up with new ideas and things to talk about on my blog. Which gets me in trouble because the more random your blog is, the less people are going to want to subscribe to it. People like consistency and branding. They like knowing what they’re going to get when they subscribe. My blog is a Lifestyle blog, which is broad, yes, however, it fits with my interests and I have people who read my content because we have similar interests.
Here’s how to find your audience: Know the “why” of your blog. Why did you start this journey? Who do you want to connect with in this community? Put yourself in the audience’s shoes and decide whether your content is consistent enough to create a branding around, or if you need to narrow down your categories. The reasoning for this is when your content is consistent, your audience will grow, and you will catch the attention of companies who align with your branding, and who have the same audience as you do.
Are you thinking about starting a blog? I hope these 3 tips helped you in some way!
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If you never leave your house, never talk to anyone, never pursue anyone or anything, don’t be upset when you don’t get any return on your lack of investment.Read More
I know this isn't my typical Monday Motivation, but there's some encouragement behind this post that I wanted to share with you. (And I couldn't wait to share my new look). My hair was the longest I had ever allowed it to grow. I was actually loving every minute of actually having the long hair I had always dreamt of. I’m the type of person who wants to change my hair constantly, but doesn’t want to pay to do it professionally each time. Long story short, I was slowly damaging my hair with boxed hair dye, bleach, and probably products that did more harm than good in the long run. There were many reasons that drove me to the conclusion that chopping it off was necessary, both physically and mental. Mental? Yes, that’s right, there are psychological reasons why I cut my hair too.
Firstly, I love having long hair and quite honestly I know I’ll start missing it within a week maximum. So, I’m partially writing this blog post as a reminder to myself why I made such a drastic change (at least to me). The first reason being the physical aspects. I was ready for a change. I was sick of getting tangled in my hair while I slept, shutting it in the car door, getting my hair stuck in the seatbelt, accidentally getting it stuck under my armpits and my hair smelling like sweat the remainder of the day (gross, right?). Then there’s the whole my-hair-was-damaged-beyond-repair fiasco to worry about. So I thought, let’s make this nice and simple...cut it off. Makes sense right?
Now we move on to the psychological side of this decision. Ever since I started my eating plan, the vitamins in the foods have rapidly increased my hair strength and growth. So I began gaining confidence through feeling more comfortable with my body, and hiding behind this long hair that people seemingly longed for (I know I longed for long hair for a long time). The problem was, I found myself relying on my hair to make me feel and look pretty. Almost as if the combination of long hair and losing weight defined me. I hate the feeling of hiding behind a temporarily glorified feature of mine, so again, changing up my style and cutting off my hair seemed to be the correct response to my self dissatisfaction.
With a new stage in life, a woman needs a new look. I’m deciding to walk with confidence from this day forward. Cutting and coloring my hair was a big decision for me to make, because I’ve always hid behind my little beauty comfort zone. It’s time for me to walk boldly and confidently in who I am.
I challenge you to do the same in your life. Know who you are, and walk boldly, kindly, and with confidence.
With all of this being said, I am absolutely in LOVE with my new hair and feel so fresh and ready to take on and CONQUER this new phase in my life.
I encourage you to do something fun this year for the 4th, after all, we are celebrating freedom. What are YOUR plans today?Read More
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Father’s Day is right around the corner, so I figure instead of rushing around to find the perfect gift at the last minute, I would help you out with a little gift guide!
Bean Box A Bean Box coffee subscription is a tour of the world’s best coffees, delivered fresh from Seattle and Portland’s top coffee roasters. Get started by choosing your subscription type, roast preference, and payment plan. Always FREE shipping, AND you can get your first box for free. I did this for my dad one year and he loved it and appreciated me fueling his love for coffee.
Want to go all out and get dad something really nice and incredibly manly that he will actually enjoy? This site is where it’s at.
I know what you're thinking. "Wait, isn’t this a women’s beauty subscription service?" Well, yes. BUT, they have a MALE version full of super nice grooming products and soaps and such. If your dad likes to smell nice, and he enjoys having a little taste of the finer things in life without committing to the real deal, this is the perfect gift for him.
Want to get your dad something nice to wear, but don’t really know his style or how to shop for him? Get him a StitchFix gift card to go toward a nice outfit (rather, 5 items in the mail hand-chosen by a personal stylist according to his preferences). Want to give him a little extra bonus? If you sign up with my referral link, $15 will be credited to his account ONTOP of the gift card you so graciously gifted him.
Which one of these gift ideas is YOUR favorite? Father’s day is Sunday, June 17th. Let’s celebrate our father’s and spoil them with some nice products!
// kenzie Share this with anyone in your life who’s a last-minute shopper and needs some quick relief in finding the perfect gift for their dad.