A loving reminder to all my fellow brides.
F O C U S
Remember your wedding day is not about everything going perfectly. You can plan for 2 years or 5 months and things will not always go as planned. You know why? Because perfect is boring and life is messy.
It’s in the imperfect moments where we find laughter and memories. It’s ultimately up to you to choose whether you’re going to allow the minor details to ruin your day or add to the memory.
I have been practicing the art of laughter in these situations. My parents would always say “if you will laugh about this later, you can laugh about it now.” I have grasped to this statement and it has allowed me to embrace the hiccups in this season better than I could have ever done if I had allowed frustration to build within me.
Wedding planning is stressful, I can attest to that much. I’m neck deep in the process of planning my wedding within 5 months. I’m not a decision maker, and planning makes me want to crawl under a rock.
I have so many beautiful, wonderful people in my life who have seen me struggle with this wedding. I try not to show it, but there’s a certain look on my face and tone in my voice which secretly lets the people closest to me realize “oh she needs help…desperately.” I am thankful for those who know me best. They are constantly reassuring me that yes, we have to make decisions, but it’s not as big of a deal as I make in my mind.
What matters is that Zach and I are getting married and celebrating with the people that we love.
People aren’t going to remember the little details. Of course it’s special and I want to surround myself with decor that makes me feel amazing and beautiful. But at the end of the day, I will be married to my best friend. And that very thought is what calms me down. My safe-haven thought. The ceremony is the door to the rest of our life together.
So I pass along my acquired wisdom to you…
Focus on the joy, the memories, the laughter, and the people who show up to celebrate with you! Take away the production, take away the missing pieces, take away the imperfect weather and the chaos... and realize what really matters at the end of the day. It’s YOUR DAY.
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