Sisters // In a World Full of Hate and Comparison

Girls can be so cruel to one another. Cat fights, comparisons, manipulation, jealousy, and always thinking the worst in one another. And above all, the main reason I have chosen to steer clear of female friendships: the CONSTANT drama. Like seriously. I didn’t know we were in a soap opera. Don’t get me wrong though, I have come across a select few solid female individuals who are some of my closest friends to this day. However, I have made some pretty nasty “frenemies” in the past because I’m not one who enjoys dealing with gossipy, disingenuous human beings. I just don’t have room in my life for that negativity. It hurts my heart to see people, women especially, intentionally putting each other down because of how they look, who they hang around, or because they feel threatened by another empowered woman. However, sisters are a different story.

I have a younger sister. She is 8 years younger than me and we definitely bump heads on the daily. Our relationship is rocky but we love each other, have inside jokes, and I would do anything to keep her safe and happy. My sister looks up to me. She has been following my every move ever since she could understand what it meant to mimic someone. It definitely used to get on my nerves, but I eventually had to reevaluate what my parents kept telling me: she’s doing it because she looks up to you and wants to be like you. I like to be my own person. Originality is very important to me. So one can only imagine my reaction when my sister was trying to rid me of my individuality. It wasn’t pretty. I progressively learned over my lifetime that my little sister wasn’t trying to take away my uniqueness, but she desired that same sense of uniqueness for herself, and I was her only source from which to learn. So I decided to set aside my ego and stubborn nature and help her grow. I am an example to her, and I only want the very best for her. I want her to take care of herself and those around her. She has a tender heart, encourages and cares deeply for others, and is incredibly persuasive. My role as her older sister is to help her grow in her unique abilities, interests, and persona.

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I want to set an example of love and kindness toward others for my sister, so that she will do the same for the world. All of this for my sister. Yet, I don’t have time to pour into the other sisters in my life? This is not the mindset of Christ. I should be setting this example to ALL of the sisters in my life. Treating them as I would treat my own sister. I feel it is important to note here, that there is a difference between letting people walk all over you for being kind to them, and setting a kind example as a leader in another person’s life. The “big sister” mindset, if you will. Allow me to further explain this concept.If my sister was being sassy to me or to someone else, I would lovingly correct her and she would take my feedback (most of the time) because we have established that relationship. If your role in someone else’s life is to set an example for them, then you are well respected and have a certain bond with this person. This doesn’t happen over night, and creating a sisterly bond with someone else takes work and can be the subject of it’s own separate blog post. The big sister mindset says “I love and care about you enough to let you know what’s right and wrong, and to hold you accountable.” 

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My desire is to be the person that people feel safe and comfortable coming to for advice and for a listening ear, because I have proven to be worthy of their trust and friendship. Isn’t this how it should be for everyone? We should be doing everything in such a way that Christ looks at us and says “well done.” So that His light shines through our words and actions. Would you agree that expressing sisterly love shine’s God’s light through us, to draw others closer to Him?
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I have come across three companies that support and encourage sisterly love in Christ, and aren’t cheesy about it. These companies not only encourage me to be a better big sister to my own flesh and blood, but also to be a better sister in the world in which we live. Because you can be anything you want to be in this world, let’s be kind and loving. Love and kindness will get you further in life than you ever thought imaginable.

"In the same way, let your good deeds shine out for all to see, so that everyone will praise your Heavenly Father." Matthew 5:16


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