5 Lessons to My High School Self // From A College Student

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Lesson #1 | It’s okay to date in high school, don’t let anybody ever tell you that it doesn’t count. Because it does. You’ve learned many lessons from the people that you have dated and now you’re ready for the real thing. Don’t ever regret those decisions. You didn’t know at the time, but It’s possible to find love in high school. Your parents found each other when they were 12.

Lesson #2 | Don’t let anyone tell you that you’re too young to do anything. Don’t let anyone own you, or try to make you feel small. You are driven and motivated, let yourself be heard and go after everything you want in life. Do everything with confidence, and with grace, and with love. You are not too young to dream, you are not too young to be a leader, you are not too young to carry wisdom. Be sensitive to others, utilize and process criticism well, and treat others with kindness and respect.

Lesson #3 | Make time for your friendships. You are growing up too fast. Three jobs in high school is too much. I know you love every minute of it, but you’re creating a wall around yourself and not allowing others to get through to you. You’re forgetting to have fun. You choose work over friends whenever the opportunity presents itself, and you are becoming disconnected. You can’t just assume they understand, and you can’t just assume they know how much you love and appreciate them. Your friends care about you, but they will eventually stop inviting you to things because they know the answer will always be “I have to work.” You’re not taking advantage of the short time you have with them, because you aren’t going to see them everyday like you used to. You’re going to waste precious memories that could have been made, on work. College is hard, and you won’t be happy when your best friends aren’t there to help you through it because you were too busy for them before now.

Lesson #4 | Establish a routine. For the love of all things good, establish a routine. College is chaos because you never disciplined yourself physically through routine. You don’t take care of yourself like you should because you’re too busy focusing on helping other people accomplish their goals. Establish a routine so you can better yourself which will ripple into a better lifestyle overall in the future (I would appreciate this, thank you).

Lesson #5 | Learn to say no to responsibilities more often. You are a people pleaser, even though you deny it. You say yes to everything because you want people to know they can count on you and trust you. Disappointing someone is your greatest fear. So why do you say yes to everything? Not everything is your job. Just because you CAN do a lot of different things doesn’t mean you HAVE TO (even though your resume is LIT right now…still not worth the stress and time). Learning this lesson earlier in life is better than living with those habits later in life. You love people (even though you deny it most of the time) and sometimes maybe even too much. Give yourself a break for goodness sake, slow down.

I’m not sure how helpful this is to you, but this was helpful for me. If you’re in high school currently, maybe some of these lessons will help you and open your eyes. I wasn’t like most high schoolers. As soon as I turned 15 I got the first job I could find and I grew up way too fast. Don’t let the time pass you by, enjoy NOW and have fun.

// kenzie

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